All Our Lives, Anywhere We Are, Just Reach Out, I'll Never Be Too Far, Come What May, There I'll Stay, Anytime You Need A Friend

--"Anytime You Need A Friend", The Beu Sisters

I have to say that Definitely, Maybe is turning into one of my favorite movies of all-time. Not only is it a good love story (three love stories, actually), but it's also a testament to my theory that certain people are going to fall in and out of your lives with regularity. Yes, I've always know I am a romantic idealist, but the way the story plays out appears to be very realistic to me. No one's ever one hundred percent at any stage in the movie (well, maybe at the end), no one's in the ideal relationship, and no one seems to have the faintest clue as to what exactly they're looking for.

I don't know about you, but I tend to enjoy stories where people don't fall madly in love with one another, especially when they are the true stories of how couples met. Nothing ruins a story faster for me than when both people are just perfect for one another, when everything comes easy because you know these two people were just made for each other. Where's the fun in that? Where's the challenge? Where's the work necessary to keep the relationship rolling? That's why one of my favorite segments from the film is when April is talking about how sometimes it isn't meeting the perfect someone as being in the perfect moment in your life to meet someone--not so much who you fall in love with but when you're finally capable of falling in love. I never thought of friendships and relationships in such a fashion, but now it's starting to make a little sense. All those times when I thought I would hit it off with someone might now be easily explained away by my not being able to meet anyone new. And all those times where I wasn't even looking to meet anyone new, it may have just been a point in my life when I really needed someone. Maybe your life is one big road trip, where you fill up with friends and lovers as needed. You don't get to decide when you're out and need a refill; it's all on a predetermined schedule.


now until the very end

It's comforting to think that it's not who you know but when you get to know them that matters. I used to worry about the fact people change as being a leading cause why so many of my relationships and/or friendships end. It's a much different matter to put my faith in the notion that it's all fated. For instance, it doesn't even matter that Breanne are somewhat opposites. Because I needed her and she needed me at the time we were introduced, we're set for life. She filled this niche and molded the spacing around her till it would be impossible to pry her out. Or, on the opposite end of the spectrum, it's intriguing to puzzle over why certain dates don't work out. It just wasn't time.

Maybe that's all relationships and friendships are, the desire to make some sort of human contact fulfilled. Maybe it's not precisely about who you want and need, but having your wants and needs fulfilled at the right time.

I love a lot of the people in my life to bits and pieces, but sometimes I wonder why any of us get along. I mean--I'm not the easiest person to get along with. I admit that. I'm also usually very picky when it comes to who I befriend from the outset. Yet for some unknown reason I click with some people very well and some people click very well with me. All that leads me to this conclusion, you can't predict who you're going to be stuck with. Sure, you can try and pick your friends. Sure, you can try and pick your relationships. But, in the end, the concept of fate intercedes.

You'll be with the right person when you need that person, that's what I'm beginning to think.

Yours Swimmingly,
mojo shivers